This Seems Kind Of Wrong of the Day: A 30-year-old Lufkin man, who was mistaken for burglar in his own home, was sentenced to 30 days in jail for resisting arrest.
When Lufkin Police responded to a call concerning a “black male” kicking in a front door on Finley St., homeowner Marco Sauceda locked himself in the bathroom and refused to come out. Officers eventually knocked down the door and shot Sauceda with a pepper ball gun.
“A person should feel secure in their own home no matter black, white, Hispanic, Asian, I don’t care who they are, they should feel secure in their own home,” Sauceda’s attorney Ryan Deaton told a six-panel Angelina County jury. “The police have no right to come in your house and push you around and beat you up and do the things they did on March, 15, 2009.”
Deaton further argued that his client “has a child’s mind,” along with an obstructive language barrier. Prosecutor Gary Taylor retorted that “this whole incident could have been avoided very easily if he would have said, ‘Me llamo Marco. Es mi casa’.”
While the jury eventually found Sauceda guilty of a Class A misdemeanor, a letter sent to Judge Derek Flournoy prior to the reading of the verdict asked for leniency. Flournoy later told Sauceda he doesn’t agree “with the notion you are a victim in this case,” and would have sentenced him to six months had it not been for the jury’s letter.
Deaton told the Lufkin Daily News that he is working on bringing a civil lawsuit against the city.
“It was easy for him because he really didn’t believe it was comin’, but it ain’t gonna be easy for you, because you better believe it’s comin’!” - Pam Grier as Coffy (1973)
Anti-Slutwalk in Sacramento, CA
I’m currently having an argument with a girl on Facebook, who is trying to get me to join the walk. In my hometown, women are getting together for an Anti-Slutwalk. I can’t agree with this. We don’t ask to be raped. Yes, we should take caution like anyone should ie being mugged or jumped. But we should have the right to dress the way we want. We’re taught not to get raped when really that’s one-sided. We should also be taught “don’t rape”. It’s implying that women that have been raped aren’t smart enough to not be raped or molested. That they put themselves in that situation. I’ll bet you that women in jeans and a turtleneck sweater are just as much of a temptation to a man who has the implication to rape as a woman in a miniskirt. We are the victims, not bait.
Of course, everyone should be aware of their surroundings and always be cautious. But we don’t ask to be murdered either. Fashion has nothing to do with it. Being sexually promiscuous has nothing to do with it. The name itself “Anti-Slutwalk” is ridiculous and insulting. It’s slut-shaming. Slutwalk empowers, takes the word “slut” away from those who shame and redefines it as something to be proud of. Rape Prevention Walk could have been fine but these people are obviously against a feminist organisation that I approve of.
biggest gpoy ever
This always happens to me .___.
all of the above LOLSubmitted by novemberjewel
Falling off the bed. Every time.
What’s that feeling where you step off something in a dream and suddenly your foot is like “OH SHIT WHERE’S THE GROUND?!?!” And then it’s like “Wait a second, I’m lying down…”
Dammit, it’s actually really difficult to skank to Reggae. Roots tends to be a more chilled-out style than the more hectic Ska.
Skanking has also become more of a 2nd-3rd gen Ska thing rather than something the Reggae culture has embraced.
[Image description: purple and black alternating diamond pattern in background. At the center is a pissed-off grey and white cat. Top text: “’pray the gay away!’” Bottom text: “the only message here: bachmann can rhyme.”]
"When I give food to the poor, they call me a saint. When I ask why the poor have no food, they call me a communist."
Hélder Câmara (via amazingatheist)
==>YOU THERE, TUMBLR USER, LOOK AT ME.
oh my god what did I just do
BITCH. READ DRESDEN FILES.A SONG OF ICE AND FIRE. PLZ THNX
The Dresden Files: Mystery! Excitement! Vampires! Magic! No Black People In A Modern Metropolitan Setting!
Fred, George and Remus
Remus and Fred.
Weasley Twins & Hermione
Ron and the Twins <3
Draco, Luna, Bellatrix, Remus!
Dobby, Hermione, McGonagall, Snape.
Hermione, Sirius, Remus, Luna
Luna, Molly, McGonagall, Lupin
Percy Ignatius Weasley
(with Neville and McGonagall tied for second)
(Then George then Fred then Neville then Luna…
I have a list)
Snape, Lupin, the twins, Neville, McGonagall, Dobby
Padma and Parvati Patil.
Hey you know what would be great if you pricks could all stop photoshopping things into the Black Flag bars.
IS THIS REAL LIFE? PEOPLE ACTUALLY BELIEVE THIS?
I’m not threatened by it. I’m fine with women showing off their bodies. I’m just sick of some of them expecting the rest of the world to kowtow to them.
Again, with the accusations of fear. I am not afraid of women. And I NEVER said that it justified rape; you are a misandrist for suggesting that I said such a thing.
I have my own hypothesis: You are insecure and afraid of male sexuality. It terrifies you to think that there are men out there who you can’t wrap around your little finger. When other men make catcalls to you, you hate the fact that you secretly enjoy it, because it might drive you to cheat. Can I prove any of this? No, not any more than you can prove your vicious ad hominem attacks on me. But I can read between the lines.
I’ve got news for you: I love women. I think that most of the women I’ve met are amazing. I think the same thing of most of the men I’ve met, too. Since I have relatively the same opinion of men and women, I treat them the same way: I judge them by their actions and their achievements, and I do not give any special consideration, positive or negative, on the basis of what’s between their legs. That causes me to be labeled as a sexist.
Guess what? I’ve had men make degrading sexual remarks about me. I’ve had men make dirty jokes at work in my presence. And you know what? I’m not scarred from it. I just told them to shut up and leave me alone, and that was all it took. I am not a helpless little child who runs to mommy and daddy whenever they’re upset.”
…who exactly is afraid of male sexuality in this society? All we’re bombarded with is heterosexual male sexuality! Boys aren’t treated with scrutiny for losing their virginity, advertisements and media are rife with the male gaze. Women are sluts, men are studs, men are supposed to have conquests and women are expected to have regrets.
Let me tell you: I don’t enjoy catcalls. Because catcalls aren’t about sexuality, male or otherwise. They’re about control. They’re about feeling that you, a complete stranger, have the right to loudly assert your unsolicited opinion about my body in a dehumanizing and embarrassing way. And do you know what happens at least half of the time when you ignore or call out a catcaller? They turn violent. They turn angry. They call you ugly, they call you a bitch, they may even threaten you. Don’t believe me? Here you go.
If you want to approach a beautiful woman, there are ways to do it without threatening or harassing. You don’t have the right to approach anyone, you don’t have the right to invade anyone’s space, and you don’t have the right to assert ownership or intent over a stranger’s body, or anyone’s body who doesn’t consent.
I’m not afraid of men who are sexual beings or who are attracted to me. I’m threatened by men who feel a right to assert their opinion over my body in a disruptive and rude manner without even knowing me. No good is going to come from that behavior, and since women who are assaulted are constantly judged for not being careful enough (hey! just like you’re doing!), I’m right to be wary.
Finally, the audacity to claim that your response to dirty jokes, advances, and sexual remarks is how women should be able to react? You are approaching this from a position of power. You are a man. You are not considered by society at large to be an automatic sex object, or an object of any kind. There is not an entire culture dehumanizing and degrading men that backs up these jokes. So while they’re still offensive and wrong, they don’t carry the weight of hundreds of years of patriarchal opinions of women’s place in society and sex. They’re not the same. Please try and understand that.
Oh, and calling out sexists isn’t “running to mommy and daddy”. It’s dealing with it. Stop being a disrespectful ass.
Bob Marley on how to love a woman
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect - you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”
- Bob Marley
Dwarves of The Hobbit: Dwalin, Balin, Kili, Fili, Dori, Nori, Ori, Oin, Gloin, Bifur, Bofur, Bombur, and Thorin.
There’re no words to describe how excited I’m. Not even in Khuzdul.
one of these is not like the other
I predict that Aidan Turner/Kili will be this movie’s Bloom/Legolas
I know they’re dwarves, but must they have such silly hairstyles?
I’ve said it once, I’ll say it again… “All the dwarves are hipsters” is not the art direction I expected them to take.
Urgent appeal! Remember ryking?
Well, that misogynistic, abusive dude is now top editor of the politics featured tag. Seriously. He’s known for being abusive to anyone who calls him out, and for calling people feminazis or c*nts for telling him to stop using misogynistic language. He’s now in a position of power over the blogs that he’s abused, and generally, they all use the politics tag a lot.
Please, everyone email email@example.com and inform them of the situation and ask for his removal. Sig boost the fuck outta this.
I shall signal boost
WHAT THE SHIT.
This just. No. Nonononononononono.
Are you shitting me? The dude is one of the single most despicable persons I’ve ever had the misfortune of coming across.
Ryking and Alex Holzbach are the reason I refuse to look at the “politics” tag.
At the age of 25, Leila Khaled gained worldwide notoriety for hijacking planes to bring attention to the plight of Palestinians whose land had been stolen and settled by Zionists. In 1969, armed with handguns and grenades, under the direction of the Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine (PFLP), Leila became the first woman to ever hijack a plane.
She commandeered a flight from Rome bound for Athens and demanded that the pilot fly over her birthplace, Haifa, where her family was forced from their home by Zionist Israeli settlers. No flight personnel or passengers were injured, but the plane was blown up.
She still rejects any charges of terrorism leveled at her, explaining in a recent interview, “There is a difference between terrorism and armed struggle. Palestinians have the right under international law, to struggle by all means, including armed struggle.”
"Yes, I feel unanchored … for my land is raped … it is under the hoofs of the Zionists … a people that have evicted my mother and other mothers and raped my true Mother Palestine. I swear by my revolution, by my humanity, that we shall return the Palestinians to their homes and we shall recover our lost humanity!"
My People Shall Live The Autobiography of a Revolutionary, Leila Khaled (via bonjour-habibti)
"After 22 years of injustice and inhuman living in camps with nobody caring for us, we feel that we have the very full right to protect our revolution, we have all the right to protect our revolution. Our Code of Morals is Our Revolution. What serves our revolution, what helps our revolution, what protects our revolution is right, is very right and honourable and very noble and very beautiful, because our revolution means justice, means having our homes back, having back our country, which is a very just and noble aim."
-My People Shall Live The Autobiography of a Revolutionary, Leila Khaled (via bonjour-habibti)
"Until the image of the black man in the mind of the black man has been changed, there will always be delinquency, parental and juvenile. The idea is not to change the attitude of the white man to the black man but to change the attitude of the black man to himself."
Malcolm X (via jaydotespy)
from the fbi produced “black panther coloring book”.
The Ten Point Program
The Ten Point Program was as follows:
- WE WANT FREEDOM. WE WANT POWER TO DETERMINE THE DESTINY OF OUR BLACK AND OPPRESSED COMMUNITIES. We believe that Black and oppressed people will not be free until we are able to determine our destinies in our own communities ourselves, by fully controlling all the institutions which exist in our communities.
- WE WANT FULL EMPLOYMENT FOR OUR PEOPLE. We believe that the federal government is responsible and obligated to give every person employment or a guaranteed income. We believe that if the American businessmen will not give full employment, then the technology and means of production should be taken from the businessmen and placed in the community so that the people of the community can organize and employ all of its people and give a high standard of living.
- WE WANT AN END TO THE ROBBERY BY THE CAPITALISTS OF OUR BLACK AND OPPRESSED COMMUNITIES. We believe that this racist government has robbed us and now we are demanding the overdue debt of forty acres and two mules. Forty acres and two mules were promised 100 years ago as restitution for slave labor and mass murder of Black people. We will accept the payment in currency which will be distributed to our many communities. The American racist has taken part in the slaughter of our fifty million Black people. Therefore, we feel this is a modest demand that we make.
- WE WANT DECENT HOUSING, FIT FOR THE SHELTER OF HUMAN BEINGS. We believe that if the landlords will not give decent housing to our Black and oppressed communities, then housing and the land should be made into cooperatives so that the people in our communities, with government aid, can build and make decent housing for the people.
- WE WANT DECENT EDUCATION FOR OUR PEOPLE THAT EXPOSES THE TRUE NATURE OF THIS DECADENT AMERICAN SOCIETY. WE WANT EDUCATION THAT TEACHES US OUR TRUE HISTORY AND OUR ROLE IN THE PRESENT-DAY SOCIETY. We believe in an educational system that will give to our people a knowledge of the self. If you do not have knowledge of yourself and your position in the society and in the world, then you will have little chance to know anything else.
- WE WANT COMPLETELY FREE HEALTH CARE FOR ALL BLACK AND OPPRESSED PEOPLE. We believe that the government must provide, free of charge, for the people, health facilities which will not only treat our illnesses, most of which have come about as a result of our oppression, but which will also develop preventive medical programs to guarantee our future survival. We believe that mass health education and research programs must be developed to give all Black and oppressed people access to advanced scientific and medical information, so we may provide our selves with proper medical attention and care.
- WE WANT AN IMMEDIATE END TO POLICE BRUTALITY AND MURDER OF BLACK PEOPLE, OTHER PEOPLE OF COLOR, ALL OPPRESSED PEOPLE INSIDE THE UNITED STATES. We believe that the racist and fascist government of the United States uses its domestic enforcement agencies to carry out its program of oppression against black people, other people of color and poor people inside the United States. We believe it is our right, therefore, to defend ourselves against such armed forces and that all Black and oppressed people should be armed for self defense of our homes and communities against these fascist police forces.
- WE WANT AN IMMEDIATE END TO ALL WARS OF AGGRESSION. We believe that the various conflicts which exist around the world stem directly from the aggressive desire of the United States ruling circle and government to force its domination upon the oppressed people of the world. We believe that if the United States government or its lackeys do not cease these aggressive wars it is the right of the people to defend themselves by any means necessary against their aggressors.
- WE WANT FREEDOM FOR ALL BLACK AND OPPRESSED PEOPLE NOW HELD IN U.S. FEDERAL, STATE, COUNTY, CITY, AND MILITARY PRISONS AND JAILS. WE WANT TRIALS BY A JURY OF PEERS FOR ALL PERSONS CHARGED WITH SO-CALLED CRIMES UNDER THE LAWS OF THIS COUNTRY. We believe that the many Black and poor oppressed people now held in United States prisons and jails have not received fair and impartial trials under a racist and fascist judicial system and should be free from incarceration. We believe in the ultimate elimination of all wretched, inhuman penal institutions, because the masses of men and women imprisoned inside the United States or by the United States military are the victims of oppressive conditions which are the real cause of their imprisonment. We believe that when persons are brought to trial they must be guaranteed, by the United States, juries of their peers, attorneys of their choice and freedom from imprisonment while awaiting trial.
- WE WANT LAND, BREAD, HOUSING, EDUCATION, CLOTHING, JUSTICE, PEACE AND PEOPLE’S COMMUNITY CONTROL OF MODERN TECHNOLOGY. When, in the course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bonds which have connected them with another, and to assume, among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the laws of nature and nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation. We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. That to secure these rights, governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed; that, whenever any form of government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or to abolish it, and to institute a new government, laying its foundation on such principles, and organizing its powers in such form as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and, accordingly, all experience hath shown that mankind are most disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But, when a long train of abuses and usurpation, pursuing invariably the same object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such government, and to provide new guards for their future security.
"When we are taught that safety lies always with sameness, then difference, of any kind, will appear as a threat. When we choose to love we choose to move against fear - against alienation and separation. The choice to love is a choice to connect - to find ourselves in the other."
bell hooks, All About Love: New VIsions. (via costumepartypolitics)
the floor above us lives a ‘family’, several women move in and a shifty looking man. they make few appearances in the day, keep to themselves. you will see them leave the building at night, climb into a taxi at some unearthly hour and drive off into a musky darkness that this city is stained with. they return before every one else in the building has awoken and settle back into their second floor apartment. every now and again, when good things happen they make their praise. they cook sweet rice and send it around the building. no one will accept it, every one will be heavy with judgement on these days. everyone except our family, our mother teaches us to share in blessings where there is mercy upon anyone.
one evening, tenants across the building call a meeting. the men do what they always do best, howl about these night women. the women support their husbands, ‘haa-ing’ with nothing in their body that tells them otherwise. there is little to think about and this is as close to harmony as this city gets now a days, a city that once felt so different.
“we should have them evicted”, one man says.
“they leave late at night, all of them”, another says.
most people will have you believe that this family exist on the edge of society, that we should judge people solely by the work they do or don’t do. all work is work in my family, from the young boy who comes to sweep the floors every day to these women. they are all trying to make an honest living, something to get by on in a country controlled by men who know nothing of this: of this honest living. these women, they are as seedha-saadha* as you can get. there is no hiding behind a mouthful of words, no pretending that sin is reserved for the devil. there is no perfection in anything that is human.
my mother is irritable, she is a woman who is no nonsense, a feminist in her own right. she does not believe in this good and bad woman, this idea that some women are any less for who they are or what they do.
“what are you doing up so late at that hour that you see these women and it bothers you, i’m asleep but what are you doing?” she asks.
they struggle to answer, hasty, nervous, words spilling over one another.
“i sometimes smoke a cigarette and so i go down to the street corner”
“i am checking up on my family”, another asserts.
these answers, excuses, proclamations are old.
“you can do this from your apartment, you don’t need to go down to the curb to smoke or to check up on your children. these people, they do nothing to you. they leave late at night when you should all be deep in sleep and make not so much of a noise during the day. they pay rent just as we do, they have every right to be here just as we do. they are no different.”
silence descends, my mother has finished this matter. it is years before they begin to cause trouble again, throwing accusations against the silence of these women as outcasts. what people will do to belong, what boundaries they will draw, what spaces they will carve out, who they will leave to rot, what kindness they will forget. how mercy is only reserved for a hierarchy.
“these night women, they are no different” my mother assures me “they are women like any of us”. i have never believed otherwise…
[*seedha-saadha translates to straight-forward in urdu. this story is based on a true story told to me by my aunt on the prostitutes who lived in the floor above them and what my grandmother did to defend them when no one else would. set in 1970s karachi, pakistan]
This is so funny.
Yeah, this is what mine looked like.
Now it looks like THIS!
Just so, y’know… I can address posts to Princess Celestia.
This is beautiful. I can’t even…
I want to cry.
Drawn by lily-fox on Deviantart.
THIS MAKES ME SO SAD. URGH.
It’s true. Snape wouldn’t have been such a massive creepy stalkerish codpiece if he’d just had some goddamn pancakes.
I guessed on the colors! sorry about that I guess
WOW this is so cute !!!!!!
"As a result of this audit, we now know that the Federal Reserve provided more than $16 trillion in total financial assistance to some of the largest financial institutions and corporations in the United States and throughout the world. This is a clear case of socialism for the rich and rugged, you’re-on-your-own individualism for everyone else."
Sen. Bernie Sanders, on the report from the first-ever audit of the Federal Reserve. (via cognitivedissonance)
Zecora is very pretty.
This is very well done. Also Zecora is the best character ever.
The obvious conclusion:
#things I need to rewatch
Meh, The God Of Cookery (Sik San) was the best Chow Sing-Chi movie.
Rainbow Dash? Is that you?
On Being A Slut… (since my point hasn’t been made countless times already)
If we want to look at the dictionary definition, a slut is someone who is sexually promiscuous or has loose sexual morals (whatever that means). But, in a society where the objectification of women is so rampant and the word slut is not only restricted to sex, but to any other behavior deemed “unnatural” for a woman it’s easy to get lost in the rhetoric of slut-shaming. And just so there is no confusion whatsoever, slut-shaming is when a woman is policed and labeled a slut based on her sexual promiscuity.
Research has been done to show the effects on objectification of women in the media and the results are disturbing. “Depression, appearance anxiety, body shame, sexual dysfunction, and eating disorders are only a few among the growing list of repercussions” (Frederickson & Noll, 1997). Contrary to what the dictionary has to say about the word, I have been labeled a slut because I wouldn’t shut up, discussed sex freely, and also had sex (lots of it). As a young woman, I found out being a slut didn’t mean you only had sex; it meant you talked about it, you were opinionated, and you defended yourself. It was the quickest jab to my reputation even at the young age of fifteen.
Anyone can be called a slut, even men. A slut for being assertive. A slut for speaking out. There’s even a facebook page titled, “Shut Up, You Stupid Slut!” You can type in the word Slut on Facebook and come up with many pages such as the one up above. The word slut has been so loosely used in past years, that the societal definition has become.. confusing. It’s not only the word slut that is being used as a way to weaken a woman’s “good” reputation. Words like, “cunt”, “dyke”, and “whore” are being used synonymously with slut. I hear it all the time when I’m out in public and men comment on what a woman is wearing by saying, “Oh wow, what a slutty cunt.” Or, “Look at that dress she’s wearing, she looks like such a dyke whore.”
So, am I a slut? I enjoy sex and not necessarily monogamous sex. I am opinionated and will defend myself when I need to. I identify as a queer woman, so when I talk about how I am turned on by those of the same sex, am I also a slut then? Yes and no. By society’s definition, I am most definitely characterized as a “slutty woman.” I like short dresses and skirts. I like to show off cleavage. It’s my choice to do so after all. But, I am also not a slut because sluts do not exist. Sluts are a figment of the patriarchal imagination and in that imagination they are not only sexually active women, but they are thinking, working, productive women who strive to be the best they can be. Again, I say sluts do not exist.
Sluts are a myth.
They myth of “the slut” is that women who like to have a lot of sex are sex-hungry, blindly fucking monsters from hell. Essentially, this idea stems from insecurity from other women and men who are afraid of female sexuality, for whatever reason it may be. It is also scary to a society that values a “good girl” image from all women, from the time a young girl reaches adolescence until the day they die. The myth of the slut is used to control women so they will sit down, shut up and keep their legs closed. As for men, they are seen as sexually promiscuous by nature.
Herein lies the double standard. Women are sluts. Men are studs. Women are filthy. Men are clean. Jessica Valenti puts it perfectly in He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut and 49 Other Double Standards A Woman Should Know, when she says “Men who have a lot of sexual partners are studs, Casanovas, pimps, and players. Never sluts.” And even when a man is called a slut, it’s never just slut. It’s either man-slut or man-whore. It’s always derived from the feminine and there is never an original derogatory term for men who have promiscuous sex.
Now, I recently got into a debate with a young woman on the social media site tumblr. This is what she had to say about “sluts” and my view on them:
“I don’t even think YOU should refer to women who choose to screw whom they please as sluts (the majority of people have that word registered in their brains as something dirty, wrong, disgusting…) but, I can’t prohibit you to stop using any word at that. “Slutting” is -for the most part- quite degrading when done without a single thought. Women who fuck just because they can, without a thought, without evening questioning if the person they’re screwing even has respect for them or sees them as just a whore, concubine, harlot, jezebel… is wrong. I don’t have respect for girls who fuck without thinking a single thought before the deed is done. Who don’t think for themselves; for their own damn good! I’ve seen guys laugh and talk shit about girls they’ve fucked, because no respect was established whatsoever… And, I’ve witnessed sluts hit on my boyfriend, them being fully aware that he’s taken, it makes me sick. No respect for self nor fellow females and couples overall! My point being, know what you’re supporting, every single tiny spec of it.
Everyone has the right to pork whom they please, no problem there but when you’re fucking just anyone without really knowing what kind of a person they are don’t get pissy when they call you names or treat you a certain way; it’s your own fault.
Set them straight before it’s too late.
I hope I’m not misunderstood.”
I try to keep my mind open at all times, especially when young women start slut-shaming. I attempt to understand 1.) Why are they slut-shaming? 2.) What are their experiences and 3.) How can I talk to them about what they are saying and why it is wrong? In this case the first two have been understood, but the third was the hardest to address. So, while I can’t and won’t link you to the full on discussion I had with her, I will address how problematic her statement is and how it really does affect young girls and women.
She seems to project this idea of “the slut” which is a mind numbing, blindly fucking monster from hell who wants nothing more than to make every girl’s worst nightmare of stealing their partner come to life. It’s an idea made up in most women’s minds because of insecurities not dealt with head on. She also assumes that because a woman is having sex with more than one person within a short period of time that that woman is somehow not respecting herself. This is straight up offensive to women around the world who have multiple sexual partners, but it is not an unusual stance on the matter. Friends of the past have told me, “Nicole, why don’t you have more self-respect?” But the thing is, I do! I have a lot of it! I have enough self-respect to stick up for my opinions in a public domain, don’t I? And a lot of young women are faced with this argument; that somehow if you have a lot of sex and enjoy it you can’t respect yourself. It’s a lie.
“Everyone has the right to pork whom they please, no problem there but when you’re fucking just anyone without really knowing what kind of a person they are don’t get pissy when they call you names or treat you a certain way; it’s your own fault. ”
What really got my blood boiling out of all that she said, was the “it’s your own fault” card. Victim blaming, anyone? This is the epitome of rape culture and the phrase used the most in order to demonize young women according to their sexuality. The really interesting part of the sentence is the fact that she contradicts herself completely by saying everyone has the right to have sex with who they please, but don’t come crying when you get harassed or called names! She doesn’t explicitly say the word “rape” in there, but it is definitely implied with the rest of what she is saying.
Comments like the one up above are what contributes to a rape culture that is so set on limiting a woman’s sexuality. That is not okay with me, as a rape survivor and other young women like me who aren’t ashamed of their sexuality. Slut is a term that is archaic and needs to be taken back from the community it has so often been used against.
The slut debate has been ignited mostly by the recent Slutwalks taking place all over the country and world. Whether you think it’s a joke, empowering, or you don’t care, the discussion is happening and people are talking about “sluts.” There needs to be a greater emphasis on the double standard between female and male sexuality, that’s for sure. If being a slut means having a lot of sex and enjoying it, then I’m a damn slut.
FDS, you are always on the money.
Imagine Captain America was a sexy redhead.
Oh but….Steph is a blonde just like Steve is.
She could do with some pants (how you can fight crime with no pants and in heels is beyond me) but rawr.
Seriously though I’m so sick of women superheroes in like bustiers and 5 inch heels. There is nothing wrong with heels and skin. There is something wrong when every single one of your women superheroes is dressed up like that.
I’m so sick of sexy being the default for people with vaginae and boobs. (And that usually means cis women, because when was the last time you saw a trans person or someone who identified as genderqueer as a superhero? Or god forbid a woman without a vagina or boobs. Or a teh gayz?)
Only trans superhero who comes to mind is Lord Fanny, but that doesn’t quite count, because The Invisibles isn’t quite a superhero comic?
But it’s incredibly draining when EVERY woman in a comic has to be uber-sexualised and uber-sexy. I mean, we know these girls are extreme ass-kickers, we know that they’re sexy… It’s not required for every panel they’re in to be an ass-shot or a boob-shot or all about their thick, full, pouty lips while they crush a guy’s sternum.
-Also why I hate the new Harley Quinn costume.
#my personal canon for harry potter after deathly hallows is that instead of becoming an auror he taught defense against the dark arts #never in this series did harry seem happier than when he is teaching everyone in the DA disarming spells and patronus charms #also hermione is a wildly passionate social justice advocate and published scholar #ron is a badass auror with the best record in the ministry and a reputation for genius strategems#now and then they still find themselves investigating dark wizards or uncovering age-old mysteries together #occasionally they call on neville or luna for help #and so when they show up in the epilogue in their business casual jackets and mom jeans they’re just doing the parenting thing taking their kids to king’s cross - but behind the scenes hermione was up all night researching and harry and ron were out spying #and their lives are brilliant and anything but the monotonous and tame picture we see in those final pages #while i don’t necessarily loathe the epilogue i found it too out of character for all three of them #they’re loved now and relatively safe and they’ve stitched themselves together as a family but you can’t convince me these three ever outgrew that sense of duty and bravery and taste for adventure they had as kids
My Headcanon - Harry becomes an Auror but winds up disfigured a la Madeye due to uncharacteristic braggadocio, at which point he takes up a new post heading up a formalised Auror training academy. Despite this, he still goes out at night, searching for dark wizards, slowly degenerating into ennui as he adjusts to life without a nemesis.
Crepes Rule Everything Around Me
Cream, get the jelly
lemon lemon curd y’all
Anti-Zionism ≠ Anti-Semitism
Opposing the genocidal imperialism of the state of Israel on the Palestinian people is not the same as religious discrimination, and nor is it motivated by it. It’s motivated by the acknowledgment of the fact that Palestinians are in fact people, and are just as deserving of the right to live without persecution as any other person on this planet.
Zionism = Anti-Semitism
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"I remember LL Cool J said his niece once told him he must have thought she was ugly. He was like, “What?” Her classmates would call her Crispy because she was dark. She said, “Because you don’t put girls who look like me in your videos.” And he said it just broke his heart; he just felt so bad. And I’m like, But why does it take that though?"
Allison Samuels (via newwavefeminism)
I hate how people are already using the attacks on Norway to be racist and Islamaphobic.
Sitting online going MUSLIMS DID IT isn’t going to help anybody, and the point is an attack happened and it’s disgusting. No matter who’s behind it.
Every time I hear about a bombing or an attack, I sit there for hours going “a white guy did it a white guy did it a white guy did it a white guy did it….” in my head for hours because I just cannot deal with the shit that gets thrown up if it’s anyone but a white guy responsible.
He has to be a fucking troll. Has to be. There’s no way someone is this stupid or so delusional about Japan that they would construe all the facts into what he thinks.
>Japan and China
This guy’s. Entire. Fucking. Gallery
All my head desks.
And I bet the guy’s blog is all “Why do girls only like assholes? I’m a nice guy, but I keep getting stuck in the friend zone! When will these women see that they owe me for being their friend?!”
Because sometimes size doesn’t matter … Famous Size-Mismatched Couples
It’s odd… In the relationships featured where the woman is taller, it tends to be by a relatively small amount - the most telling example being the Martha Vickers/ Mickey Rooney snap, where she was 1 1/2” taller, while in the examples of Brigitte Neilsen/ Flava Flav, the size difference was 6 inches; L’wren Scott/ Mick Jagger, 6 inches; Jan Chamberlin/ Mickey Rooney, 4 inches; Jill Vanderberg/ Tony Curtis, 3 inches; Nicole Kidman/ Tom Cruise, 3 inches, Katie Holmes/ Tom Cruise, 2 inches. The worst example given was that of Tina Fey and her partner, where Tina is listed as an inch shorter but appears, by dint of high heeled shoes, to be taller.
On the male side, the Kris Humphris/ Kim Kardashian split is 1’ 7”; Carmelo Anthony/ Lala Vasquez, 1’ 2”; Shaquille O’Neal/ Shaunie Nelson, 1’ 3”, Yao Ming/ Ye Li, 1’ 3”, Will Smith/Jada Smith, 1’ 2”.
So in short, for a woman and her husband to be considered the same size, the woman actually has to be several inches shorter, as the Tina Fey example shows? Why is a difference of 3 inches on the woman’s side as noteworthy as a difference of 12 on the man’s?
Not to be a pedant, but are we blinded by gender roles into believing that when a woman is taller than her partner, that the relationship is some kind of novelty?
The First Grader (2010)
The true story of an 84 year-old Kenyan villager and ex Mau Mau freedom fighter who fights for his right to go to school for the first time to get the education that was never available to him.
Saw this film yesterday - very moving and beautifully filmed. I highly recommend it.
I need to see this. NEED.
Apparently Christians have an incredibly low view of women (as if that was debatable somehow)
So Jesse, for funsies, had grabbed this book called “the power of a praying husband” from the hospital (because military hospitals are FULL of christian books… Seriously.)
Here’s a wonderful excerpt about women on their periods:
Her cycle of hormones alone is beyond comprehension. A woman can be emotionally sensitive in the days before, during, and after her monthly cycle. That leaves about three days in the middle when she is normal, and on one of those days she is ovulating, so it’s up for grabs how she is going to be that day. So I figure a guy has two good days when it’s safe.
How on earth is a woman supposed to run a family, a business, or heaven forbid a country if she’s THAT emotionally volatile for 94% of her life?
Whatever you do, don’t ask your wife, “Is it that time of the month again?” She doesn’t want her suffering to be dismissed or explained away so easily. Even if that has everything to do with it, she is not able to see that now. And it will do no good to try to force the issue.
It also happily promotes spousal rape!
“Men, when your wife screams “don’t touch me!” at the top of her lungs and then crawls into bed at 7pm, It really means “Don’t leave me. Come and get me. Save me. Help.”
If she withdraws her hand when you reach out to touch it, that really means “Please keep trying. This is working. Follow the trail of depression and bad vibes. Find me, and rescue me.”
Holy shit! If I ever got to the point where I had to scream, scream ”don’t touch me!” at the top of my lungs, I sure as shit mean it. If you come crawling in to bed after me trying to get some after that, I’m cutting your balls off.
This is in the chapter called “her moods” Other chapters include “her sexuality” (which is hilarious) and “her submission” (which is just as sickening as it sounds.)
In high school youth group I was made to read a book to Bible study called “Lady in Waiting”. Look it up and be terrified. I was 14.
The guys’ Bible studies were studying serious theology and we were learning how to be good spouses as high school freshmen. Misogyny is RAMPANT in Christian churches, especially in the South. Some of that shit still haunts me.
Fucking hell, no wonder people have such weird views of women and sex
Dear people that have gotten piercings and tattoos in New York, New York piercings in Toronto,
GO GET TESTED FOR HIV, HEP C and HEP B.
Toronto Public Health has uncovered a lot of issues with the place, including inadequate sterilization of tools and hand washing.
Happy Birthday, Mr. George Clinton. With Debbie Harry on Glenn O’Brien’s TV Party
White Europeans are so interesting. One day, I want to move to Europe and buy a castle and live like they do. Their lace and long dresses are so whimsical, and their belief and trust in that Pope mythology is just so deeply spiritual. I’ve always felt a deep connection with them.
I just noticed there’s a collie :D