Follow up post re: MRAs and Family Law/Parenting
I left a big point out in my previous post, mostly because I was blogging from work ( shhh! don’t tell. ).
When MRAs starting talking about father’s rights, family law reform, etc. I want you to pay special attention to the things they say. You will notice a theme.
The theme is: controlling women. MRAs don’t really want improved parental rights. What they want is another way to control and victimize women. I have seen these discussions over and over again.
Every time some bro whines because “What if I want to be a dad and she wants an abortion? I should be able to have a say!” What this translates to is, “I don’t care what she wants. I don’t care about her body, health, or life. I care about being able to force my wants on her.”
Then there are those that will say, “Well, I’ll take her to court if she won’t let me X, Y, Z when it comes to my kid!” What this translates to is, “I can’t be a mature adult and suggest we try to settle this dispute amicably. Instead, I will threaten her with expensive legal action that will take time away from her job and life.”
All of this talk about how it’s so unfair that a woman ( sorry that this is ciscentric. Not only women can have children. ) can decide to abort or that a woman is receiving child support payments. All of it is really buttfrustrated sexist, misogynistic little assholes upset over the fact that they can’t control a woman’s choices. So they use threats, emotional blackmail, unnecessary legal action, and other means to desperately try and control these women who DARE to try have some control over their own lives and the lives of their children.
Rarely do I see MRAs talking about the kids in these situations. It’s ALWAYS about how unfair things are for men and what horrible, trickster, lying bitches women are.
That’s how you can tell that MRAs don’t really care about this shit. Because they don’t even address the real issue: Being a parent means making the best decision for your child, even if it’s something that you don’t want to do. And threatening to use your children to hurt the other parent is always shitty and always the sign of someone who doesn’t really give a shit about their children’s quality of life.
A typical MRA.
I found this comment while reading about Amanda Knox. The commenter wrote, “There is a myth of male power in Western culture that is just that, a myth. The American female majority wanted her released and pitied, and they got it.”