Also, can I just say when you’re listing shades to make a point and end in a color that doesn’t exist on a skin shade spectrum i.e. “I don’t care if you’re white, black, brown, yellow, or purple.” it really shows how detached you are from racism? And how privileged you are as a white person? It also makes PoC feel othered because you put us in the spectrum of being different than white, relating legitimate skin shades to colors like purple.
being a PoC means living in a world where everything is problematic and having to pick and choose what you have to let go and what you need to speak on
yes, thank you. people constantly accuse us of talking about race ALL the time and always taking things too seriously and never letting things go. in poc supremacy chat we were talking about how much shit we DO let go, how much we HAVE to hold our tongue, how much we have to swallow to not be constantly called angry, loud, racist or you know, get killed. motherfuckers don’t know.
Especially when I’m trying to have a good time… I have to let some things go as to not make an awkward time for innocent bystanders.
Yes, even in meetings we’ve had with movie studios, it’s an on your toes game of when you choose to call something out, and when you bite your tongue and let it go to not be shut out at all. This fear that if you don’t let some things slide, if you call out every paper cut, they will stop listening at all.
NO! STOP THIS!
“Homophobia” is a useful, PRECISE word and it is DISTINCT from “heterosexism.” Heterosexism is to homophobia as sexism is to misogyny. Deeply related but not quite interchangable. Homophobia and misogyny are similar in that they have a connotation of visceral hatred and aversion, disgust and repulsion. Sexism is $15 for a woman to get a haircut a man could get for $10. Misogyny is the rape and abuse of women as rampant mainstream entertainment. Heterosexism is the assumption that every teen girl will want a boyfriend. Homophobia is not wanting a lesbian teaching your kid’s class in school.
The word homophobia IS NOT ABLEIST. “Phobia” is derived from the Greek word for fear or AVERSION and is used in some psychiatric terms (agoraphobia for instance) but THAT IS NOT ALL IT IS USED FOR and it is NOT exclusively a psychiatric term! For instance, one of the well known symptoms of rabies is hydrophobia—which is not a fear of water, psychiatrically, but a phyiscal AVERSION to drinking caused by the inflammation induced by the disease.
Homophobia has NEVER meant “fear of gays” in the sense that arachnaphobia is a fear of spiders. It is using the root -phobia in the sense of AVERSION, as in the deep physical disgust many homophobes (especially men) express and which leads to widespread social injustices and discrimination against gays and lesbians.
PLEASE STOP perpetuating the myth that “homophobia” is an offensive word, or that “heterosexism” is a more “PC” alternative with the same meaning. It is a hideous, harmful diversion.
[Image: A photo of two racist white women wearing faux headdresses looking ridiculous with the apt caption “crackers” in fancy font written on the picture.” One seems to be leaning her head to the side and the other may be attempting to dance.]
man so I just got back from my grandparents’ place
(it was pretty awesome to just talk in mandarin for like three hours ‘cause I never do that)
my grandma made these pork chops that my brother likes, and she was packing up a couple for me to take home for him
and I was thinking about the whole ~*environmentalism*~ thing
because yes—of course we should conserve resources—of course it’s vital for us to be doing all we can to save our environment
but then I was thinking about how on all those DIY websites and on etsy and in like Real Simple and those other magazines, like—I’ve seen DIY patterns for how to make plastic bag holders and stuff, ‘cause apparently you can reuse plastic bags! what a novel idea!
and then I realized
if you’re white and you take your old t-shirts and make a plastic bag holder to hang in your kitchen, then omfg you’re so environmentally friendly how cool A+ 4u!!! u so hip & trendy omg I wish I could be like you!!!
but if you’re an 82-year-old chinese woman
who pulls a couple of scratched but clean styrofoam plates from the cabinet
and your 82-year-old chinese husband hands you a clean plastic grocery bag from your last shopping trip
and your 21-year-old chinese-american granddaughter slips the pork chops covered in those plates into the plastic bag and ties it off to take home
being cheap-ass asians.
no one’s gonna write up a piece for a magazine about how environmentally friendly you’re being.%www.tumblr.come’s gonna look at the meticulously washed containers (jars from condiments—plastic tubs that used to hold various other foods) and the drawers stuffed full of plastic bags and think, “damn these are some role models for small things you can do around the house to cut down on waste.”
no one’s gonna look at the dinner table and see plates piled high with chicken feet and pig ear and tripe and think, “wow look at that, no part of the animal goes to waste; what role models—if we’re gonna eat meat, we might as well make sure that animal is fully consumed instead of just eating choice cuts and throwing away the rest.”
no one’s gonna see the tiny garden of tomatoes in our backyard, the little apple trees and peach trees that once a year bear fruit that’s not that sweet ‘cause we don’t bother to hardcore garden—no one’s gonna look at that and think, “wow look at that, farming in your own backyard!”
they’re gonna see my aunt and uncle, who have trouble speaking english, who dress in old t-shirts and cheap patterned pants, who take care of the house while my parents are out, and they’re gonna think—
“wow look at these immigrants and their backwater ways”
you know what, we’ve been ~*environmentally friendly*~ our whole lives, and it’s only when we get more and more americanized that we start wasting more. my dad’s recently been developing this giant hard-on for costco, and costco is like—you buy ginormo quantities of everything, ‘cause it’s cheaper, only do you actually ever use that much?
we buy more and we go through electronics faster and all of that because that’s what america’s consumerism has taught us to do.
so you know what—while I may adhere to many principles that environmentally friendly people do (reduce, reuse, recycle, all that good stuff)—I will never identify as environmentalist.
it’s a very white movement. it also like—it gives off imperialist/colonialist vibes to me too, what with people going overseas to ~*preserve the environment*~ elsewhere.
and it’s like—dude if y’all white ppl didn’t have such a boner for environment-destroying industrialization, if y’all white ppl never set that as the standard for ~*progress*~
half these places
wouldn’t even be struggling with their environment in the first place.
and then white ppl are all like ~*oh we have to have renewable energy*~, oh what about biofuel!!
iirc indonesia’s been struggling with its forests and such because people decide to replace the forests with crops that they can grow for ~*environmentally friendly renewable fuel sources*~
“environmentalism” just so often feels like a way for white ppl with extra money to circlejerk themselves into feeling better about the destruction they’ve wreaked.
until you look at my family and see environmentalism instead of cheap-ass asianness
until you look at PoC who ride their bikes to work as environmentalism instead of ~*oh well it’s probably because they have to*~
until you stop being gross about being ~*environmentally friendly*~
I will not identify as environmentalist.
I’m going to attempt to reply without overshadowing anything you’ve said (because I found it 100% right on point esp. with what I’ve seen in the diy/crafts reuse movement); I want to share two photos, and maybe a small story.
[Images: two photos of a collection of shopping bags.]
This is my mom’s bag collection. She has more in my dad’s workroom and in her car. I used to be embarrassed by it when my friends came over, laughing about things like, “omg, your mom is such a bag lady ololo” and I’d just sort of awkwardly stand there… “yeah, sure she is! crazy bag lady, haha”
she’s never bought a plastic bag for any of the garbage cans in the house, nor for the recycling. Her crazy old lady bag collection is precisely for that- to be used later as garbage bags. Sometimes, if she has an exceptionally pretty bag, she’ll use it to hand a gift over to someone, instead of going to Hallmark and shelling over 5 bucks for a decorated paper bag.
My favorite thing is, the shifty looks I’ve gotten from friends and co-workers when I bring lunch in the same styrofoam container, in the same plastic CVS bag that I keep in my desk drawer, drinking tea/coffee from the same plastic cup, and eat with the same disposable utensils for weeks on end (sometimes, I use the same napkin for weeks). Oh, and when I talk about buying things using coupons? OH MAN, THE LOOKS I GET THEN. Hilarious.
I don’t get why all that stuff can’t be considered environmentally friendly either. It’s seen as cheap, or it’s seen as disgusting. In a roundabout way, here’s the story I wanted to tell- several years ago, when I was interviewing my mom about her time living in civil-war-infested Lebanon, she told me the most important thing I think I could have ever learned- “when you have nothing, you learn how to save everything”. You learn how to save oil from cooking and how to clean paper plates. On one hand, the above statement explains why my mom hoards all the free swag she can get (pens, toilet paper, toiletries, napkins, notepads, cups, tea bags, straws), and why she’s reluctant to throw things away. On the other hand, it also explains why she’s been accused of being cheap and tacky. I mean, how dare she reuse shit that you can just throw out, amiright?!?!
When you have nothing, you save everything.
When you have everything, you save nothing.
I grew up using old margarine containers as Tupperware for sending food home with people. No one called that environmentally friendly until white people started doing it too.
The thing that’s gotten me in the solar plexis; is ‘shopping bags’. Everyone these days wants their ‘cloth shopping bags’. Everyone’s so proud to bring their shopping bags to the grocery store. The grocery store will give you a little change back on your bill if you bring your own bags.
I have relatives who’d show up with those peppermint striped shopping bags; and see no point in repacking things in separate plastic bags. And I grew up hearing all this noise about ‘immigrants’ and ‘black people’ and even had those relatives not want me to shop with them, because ‘you’re young, no one needs to see you doing this’. As their way of protecting me from people talking.
From scarification to cloth sanitary napkins to herbal supplements and toothpaste to bags, to sewing your own clothes - NOTHING is ‘good’, until white people do it and focus it through themselves like an effing prism to ‘remove color’.
things people love that i don’t understand
- the big bang theory
- the appeal of the big bang theory
- how the characters in the big bang theory are entertaining
- the humor in the jokes of the big bang theory
- the big bang theory
"Modern American standards require that the ideal feminine body be small. A woman is taught early to contain herself, to keep arms and legs close to her body and take up as little space as possible….Men are under no such size restrictions and are allowed - often encouraged - to take up as much space as they can get away with. But when a woman’s stature or girth approaches or exceeds that of a man’s, she becomes something freakish. By becoming large, whether with fat tissue or muscle mass, she implicitly violates the sexual rules that place her in physical subordination to the man."
Cecilia Hartley, “Letting Ourselves Go: Making Room for the Fat Body in Feminist Scholarship” (via wretchedoftheearth)
So I saw someone drew Batman over a sexy female pose to prove how ridiculous it actually looks, so I hopped the bandwagon.
I didn’t realize how broken Black Widow’s Spine was broken until I tried to make sense with it for Batman…that was hard and I still didn’t succeed…
Sydney, I love you.
Sometimes i get really bummed out at the misogyny you see in fandom. Like treating Lily like a trophy to be awarded to either James or Snape because they ‘deserve’ her, or the hate Ginny gets for being a smart, athletic, pretty girl or the whole concept that she’s somehow a ‘slut’ (or that, if she were, it would be bad and shameful). I know a lot of y’all are only teenagers but you should really examine your internalized misogyny sometime.
Especially the lack of understanding for Lily as a character in her own right.
My wife and I both worked hard in school and went on to earn graduate degrees. Now together we earn over $100K. We own our house and we are raising two wonderful children. We are proud of the success we have earned.
BUT, we recognize that those below us on the income ladder are also working hard or are seeking work.
We recognize that the society we live in needs people who will stock store shelves, clean the floors, drive delivery trucks, operate cash registers, and do many other low paying tasks.
Since these jobs need doing, we recognize that the workers who do them deserve to be able to live lives of dignity – that is, lives that are not blighted by poverty or crippling financial insecurity or lack of health care.
So WE THE PEOPLE must provide a safety net for each other. It is simple decency, not to mention justice.
Mm sister-in-law needs to read this and have a good, hard think.
DEAR MOM AND DAD: THIS.
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