"Many battered women who try to leave their batterers are pursued by them. And this is when a battered woman is most likely to receive her severest beating or to be killed (Browne 1987; Ewing 1987; Serum 1979a, 1979b, cited by Okun 1986)."

Dee Graham, Edna Rawlings & Roberta Rigsby. Loving to Survive: sexual terror, men’s violence, and women’s lives. NYU Press. July 1 1994. (p. 21)

Why doesn’t she just leave him?!” Well shit, I wonder why?! Research it! (via the-uncensored-she)

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Men’s rights groups, convinced that men are the biggest victims of modern society, have been busy attacking, defunding, and repealing laws that have been very effective at protecting women and lowering rates of domestic violence. They’re wrong and they’re dangerous and they need to be stopped.

stfuconservatives:

(trigger warning for generalized MRA bullshit)

abaldwin360:

(Boston Magazine) - If your last memory of men’s groups is Robert Bly and the boys banging on drums in the woods, you likely have no idea how the movement has mutated. Today, men’s rights groups tend to be organized around the belief that this country has launched a “war on fatherhood.” To them, the rise of feminism resulted in the fall of man, with males now being relegated to the periphery of society. In their eyes, the media portray men as feckless buffoons, legislative bodies unfairly target them, and biased courts blindly punish guiltless husbands. (Full disclosure: I was a producer of the 2011 documentary No Way Out But One, which examined the family court system.)

Nationally, groups like Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE) and A Voice for Men have helped slow the renewal of the Violence Against Women Act—which would provide $660 million in funding for shelters, legal aid, and other programs to protect battered women—by convincing conservative House Republicans that the law shouldn’t include immigrants, Native Americans, and LGBT victims. SAVE claims the law is biased, noting in a fact sheet titled “Seven Key Facts About Domestic Violence” that “female initiation of partner violence is the leading reason for the woman becoming a victim of subsequent violence.” In other words: She was asking for it, officer.

read the full article

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altonym:

nothatsstupid:

ladymaxwell:

vialisa:

men perpetrate 88% of total violence against men and women
women perpetrate 9.6% of total violence against men
whine more about how this is misandry??????

Throw in some statistics on motive, and you’ll probably find a lot of the women killed in self defense. Men are so fucking oppressed I can’t even stand it.

I was thinking about exactly this last night. If Misandry is super srs and such a real problem, show me the upsurge in female violence against males since it’s gained popularity. I’ll wait.

seriously!christ this is like when they use male death in the workplace as an example of institutional oppression against menbecause feminist groups are renowned for campaigning against workplace health and safety standards and woman-led groups weren’t in fact responsible for helping reduce the incidence of child labour (in the UK at least) and responsible for some of the earliest incidences of successful labour action in British history

altonym:

nothatsstupid:

ladymaxwell:

vialisa:

men perpetrate 88% of total violence against men and women

women perpetrate 9.6% of total violence against men

whine more about how this is misandry??????

Throw in some statistics on motive, and you’ll probably find a lot of the women killed in self defense. Men are so fucking oppressed I can’t even stand it.

I was thinking about exactly this last night. If Misandry is super srs and such a real problem, show me the upsurge in female violence against males since it’s gained popularity. I’ll wait.

seriously!

christ this is like when they use male death in the workplace as an example of institutional oppression against men

because feminist groups are renowned for campaigning against workplace health and safety standards and woman-led groups weren’t in fact responsible for helping reduce the incidence of child labour (in the UK at least) and responsible for some of the earliest incidences of successful labour action in British history

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"They found that a year after the event, the women who were turned away from an abortion were more likely to rely on government assistance, more likely to be living beneath the poverty line, and less likely to have a full-time job than the women in the study who had obtained abortions. They also registered more anxiety a week after they were denied an abortion and reported more stress a year out. They were no more or less likely to be depressed. And women who gave birth suffered from more serious health complications—from hemorrhaging to a fractured pelvis—than the women who aborted, even later in their pregnancies.

Happy home lives also failed to materialize. The women who were turned away were more than twice as likely to be a victim of domestic violence as those who were able to abort. The researchers found that “a year after being denied an abortion, 7 percent reported an incident of domestic violence in the last six months,” compared to 3 percent of the women who received abortions. The researchers concluded that this “wasn’t because the turnaways were more likely to get into abusive relationships,” but that “getting abortions allowed women to get out of such relationships more easily.” Carrying an unwanted pregnancy to term helped abusive men stay in these women’s lives, but it didn’t encourage delinquent new dads to stick around: The researchers found that “men were no more likely to live with a turnaway who’d borne their children than they were to live with a woman who had an abortion.”

The abortion debate often focuses on a woman’s health during those first nine months. This study shows that an unwanted pregnancy can have long-lasting effects on a woman’s body and well-being far after she carries it to term."

Amanda Hess writing at Slate about ANSIRH’s Turnaway Study. For more, io9’s write up and the Global Turnaway Study’s Facebook page.

[NB: More people than just cis women need and want access to abortion care.]

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TW: Domestic violence

moniquill:

sorcyress:

jillthompson:

the-fidgety-princess:

If you aren’t a fan of Patrick Stewart (Captain Jon Luc Picard of STNG), this might make you ask yourself why not?

“Our house was small, and when you grow up with domestic violence in a confined space you learn to gauge, very precisely, the temperature of situations. I knew exactly when the shouting was done and a hand was about to be raised – I also knew exactly when to insert a small body between the fist and her face, a skill no child should ever have to learn. Curiously, I never felt fear for myself and he never struck me, an odd moral imposition that would not allow him to strike a child. The situation was barely tolerable: I witnessed terrible things, which I knew were wrong, but there was nowhere to go for help. Worse, there were those who condoned the abuse. I heard police or ambulance men, standing in our house, say, “She must have provoked him,” or, “Mrs Stewart, it takes two to make a fight.” They had no idea. The truth is my mother did nothing to deserve the violence she endured. She did not provoke my father, and even if she had, violence is an unacceptable way of dealing with conflict. Violence is a choice a man makes and he alone is responsible for it.” ~Patrick Stewart
By: Independence House, Inc. Hyannis, MA


Please share this.

And- I find him even sexier now ;-)

Unholy damnation, look at the expression on his face! This knight of the realm will fuck you up if you indulge in domestic violence, and I love him all the more for that fact.

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communism-kills:

jarl-ulfric:

What ‘shit’ is still going on, Islam? We don’t need feminism as a remedy. A good strong backbone which doesn’t buckle under allegations of ‘Islamophobia’ might be of some help though. Good luck trying to salvage yours.

What “strong backbone” would that be…racist white man?
The kind of “backbone” that took FIVE seconds to locate an article about a pregnant, white Christian woman who was blinded by her husband in Belfast?
You are pathetic.
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Kelly Winter, who was blinded by her boyfriend, has urged other women to seek help and escape domestic violence
http://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/breaking-news/ukandireland/seek-help-battered-women-urged-14881614.html#ixzz1e6l10LFN

communism-kills:

jarl-ulfric:

What ‘shit’ is still going on, Islam? We don’t need feminism as a remedy. A good strong backbone which doesn’t buckle under allegations of ‘Islamophobia’ might be of some help though. Good luck trying to salvage yours.

What “strong backbone” would that be…racist white man?

The kind of “backbone” that took FIVE seconds to locate an article about a pregnant, white Christian woman who was blinded by her husband in Belfast?

You are pathetic.

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Kelly Winter, who was blinded by her boyfriend, has urged other women to seek help and escape domestic violence

http://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/breaking-news/ukandireland/seek-help-battered-women-urged-14881614.html#ixzz1e6l10LFN

mypatronusisyou:

theokatzman:


Fresh off of his Grammy performances and the backlash from music fans and celebrities alike, singer Chris Brown is being accused of making light of his 2009 assault conviction.
According to a report from Us Weekly, the singer –who pleaded guilty to felony assault of his then-girlfriend Rihanna  in 2009 – has reportedly been using the pick-up line,  “I promise I won’t beat you.”
A woman tells the magazine that Brown approached her on Feb. 10 at the Lasio Professional Hair Care suite at the Grammy gift lounge to ask for her number.
“Can I get your number? I promise I won’t beat you,” the woman said he told her.
“He and his friends laughed, then one yelled, ‘That’s his new line!’” she said. “I wanted to throw up.”
Following the Grammys Sunday, Brown’s two performances and one win have received significant criticism on social networks.
Country singer Miranda Lambert wrote on her Twitter page, “He beat on a girl … Not cool that we act like that didn’t happen. He needs to listen to Gunpowder and lead and be put back in his place. Not at the Grammys.”
“Gunpowder and Lead” is one of Lambert’s songs that deals with domestic violence.
Other celebs including Jack Osbourne, “Modern Family” star Eric Stonestreet and Michelle Branch similarly expressed frustration for Brown’s appearance.
According to Us magazine, Rihanna and Chris Brown have been spending time together over the past year and may even be recording a single together.

is this really happening are you fucking kidding me chris brown

omg I read about this in the paper today 
if he ever said that to me I’d be like “lol but I can’t promise I won’t beat you fuckface”

mypatronusisyou:

theokatzman:

Fresh off of his Grammy performances and the backlash from music fans and celebrities alike, singer Chris Brown is being accused of making light of his 2009 assault conviction.

According to a report from Us Weekly, the singer –who pleaded guilty to felony assault of his then-girlfriend Rihanna  in 2009 – has reportedly been using the pick-up line,  “I promise I won’t beat you.”

A woman tells the magazine that Brown approached her on Feb. 10 at the Lasio Professional Hair Care suite at the Grammy gift lounge to ask for her number.

“Can I get your number? I promise I won’t beat you,” the woman said he told her.

“He and his friends laughed, then one yelled, ‘That’s his new line!’” she said. “I wanted to throw up.”

Following the Grammys Sunday, Brown’s two performances and one win have received significant criticism on social networks.

Country singer Miranda Lambert wrote on her Twitter page, “He beat on a girl … Not cool that we act like that didn’t happen. He needs to listen to Gunpowder and lead and be put back in his place. Not at the Grammys.”

“Gunpowder and Lead” is one of Lambert’s songs that deals with domestic violence.

Other celebs including Jack Osbourne, “Modern Family” star Eric Stonestreet and Michelle Branch similarly expressed frustration for Brown’s appearance.

According to Us magazine, Rihanna and Chris Brown have been spending time together over the past year and may even be recording a single together.

is this really happening are you fucking kidding me chris brown

omg I read about this in the paper today 

if he ever said that to me I’d be like “lol but I can’t promise I won’t beat you fuckface”

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