Here’s a joke:
The ~Men’s Rights Movement~.
That’s the joke.
Oh, I get it, Men are far to uncivilized/uncouth/unintelligent/evil to deserve any rights, that’s why the idea of them having advocacy on their behalf similar to what women have is a joke. That’s not funny. It’s offensive, and if you can’t see why that’s offensive, switch the genders involved and see if you are offended. Here ends my vitriol and begins my thinking.
The general idea behind this comment is that since we live in a patriarchal society there is no need for a Men’s Rights Movement because men already have all their rights. What about Gay Men’s Rights, or Latino Men’s Rights, or Black Men’s Rights, or Asian Men’s Rights, or Poor Men’s Rights, or a Man’s Right to talk about physical abuse, or a Man’s Right to talk about rape, or a Man’s Right to talk about sexual abuse. These are all Men’s Rights that could use some advocacy just as Women’s Rights groups advocate for women in similar circumstances.
What ever happened to Feminism that Men are universally treated as horrible people because they are male. The society we live in is not just patriarchal, it is also racist and homophobic and classist, etc. and does not stop it’s predations at minority groups. Men are treated horribly by other men, and other women because they do not conform to what a ‘Man’ should be. Why should men not stand up and advocate for increased understanding of men, just as women advocate for increased understanding of women.
When MRA’s start arguing for any of that & stop debating whether or not women have a right to say no? I’m in. Until then? MRA’s can miss me with the bullshit. They don’t care about helping other men, they just want to stop women from thinking they’re people with rights. For reference? See every post by MRA’s about creeps. Or any discussion between MRA’s about child support or choice. Hell, take a moment to look in on their discussions about street harassment while you’re at & you can even play spot the rapist in the comments if your stomach is strong enough.
A typical MRA.
I found this comment while reading about Amanda Knox. The commenter wrote, “There is a myth of male power in Western culture that is just that, a myth. The American female majority wanted her released and pitied, and they got it.”
I look forward to the continuing adventures of the Men’s Rights Activist Marmoset.
This article is beautiful and hilarious and oh my god.
Men’s rights activists—a loose coalition mostly comprised of men embittered that they’re not getting as much tail as they believe they’re due and men embittered after having their wives up and leave against their wishes—irritate feminist bloggers for many reasons, from blaming feminists for problems they clearly brought on themselves, to the Russian bride weirdness, to their dogged trolling and grudge-holding of feminists that criticize them.
But, honestly, all that pales in comparison to the most irritating thing of all about MRAs: they’re just so wrong.
When you believe that we live in a female-dominated world where straight men are the most oppressed class, it tends to make you wrong about pretty much everything. Wrong about the little things, like labeling every woman who displeases them a “feminist,” even if she does something highly traditional, like demands that men pay for every date. And wrong about big things, like writing off high rates of domestic violence and rape as matters of women lying, when all reputable sources agree that there’s simply a lot of violence against women.
They’re so wrong about everything, they’re wrong even when they’re right. Some of their observations of the world correspond with reality, but when they attempt to analyze it through the “blame feminism” lens, they get all turned around. Usually what annoys them stems not from feminism, but from sexism, especially when it comes to inflexible gender roles. Ironically, then, the solution to the problems they manage to correctly identify is … more feminism. I pulled together a sampling of examples to show how this works.