It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.
But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.
And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy."
Can we please stop saying this, fandom? Turns out, Bolin’s actually a pretty decent guy, not the kind who thinks girls are vending machines that dispense sex based off of the amount of kindness you put in. Even if he ends up being into her and she’s not into him, I have no doubt that they’ll continue to be very close friends because he’s not just friends with her in the hope that something romantic will happen.
To find out why friend zone is a misogynistic term, click here.
I’m fairly forgiving and understanding, so I’ll believe that you simply misunderstood what friendzoning is. Seeing as you’re most likely a woman, you haven’t seen the flip-side. Here’s a little explanation:
The friendzone is a magical place where men go out of their way to please you, and you can simply not tell them you’re not interested because of the perks. We’re not psychic. Give men a heads up, because the frivolousness and ambiguity would leave anyone bitter and resenting.
That being said, if you tell them clearly that you’re not interested early on in your relationship and they still complain, they’re in the wrong.
What if I told you women don’t exist for men’s possible sexual relationship
What if I told you men simply don’t understand that a large majority of the time
And why the fuck is it her responsibility to cater to your pathetic ass fee fees because you want a relationship and she doesn’t? Guess what? We ain’t psychic either, and I’m pretty damn sure that these “Nice Guy” assholes who get all pissed off that “all girls want to date jerks” are the very jerks women should avoid the fucking bubonic plague.
If you know that you don’t want to be in the friend zone, THEN WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU STILL HANGING AROUND HER IF ALL YOU WANT IS FOR HER TO PUT OUT FOR YOUR TRIFLIN ASS AND SHE AIN’T??? Last I checked, these so called “Nice Guys” are grown ass men who can make conscious choices for their damn selves. If you want pussy and she ain’t giving, MOVE ON TO THE NEXT and stop blaming women for your ineptitude.
yet they still go back to that asshole. fuck you!
No, fuck you. If I have to read another one of these bullshit things, I will start kicking and punching everyone like I’m a kid at a hardcore show.
Maybe she isnt interested in “another guy”? Just because they’re friends & he treats her well doesn’t mean she has to drop everything and fuck him because of it. And how the hell would you feel if you found out someone was your friend only because they were hoping to get in your pants? Let’s grow up, people. Damn!