if you accidentally misgender someone, or say the wrong name, just correct yourself in the same manner as if you called a cis person by the wrong name or pronouns, which is not unknown because we are all capable of verbal slips.
sometimes i accidentally call people my dog’s name, or i call them “mom”
the right way to do this is “[wrong name], excuse me, [correct name]” or “[wrong pronoun], I’m sorry [correct pronoun]”
if you accidentally mess up someone’s pronouns, do not call attention to it by falling over yourself to apologize.
conversely, do not just move on and hope they didn’t notice. they definitely noticed. not correcting yourself is offensive, and pretending that you didn’t mess up is a form of gaslighting.
if you feel like going the extra mile, apologize the next time you’re alone with them, without excuses. say “I’m sorry that I misgendered you” or “I’m sorry called you the wrong name.”
do not say “it’s so hard, and i keep forgetting! I’m so bad!” trans people hear this over and over, and the message is that they should apologize for being who they are.
if someone close to you has changed their name and/or pronouns, and you’re having a difficult time with it, maybe you should practice at home.
Why are there pride months and shit
Because society deems you, cisgender straight white folks, as the norm, you don’t need to feel pride. You’re already experiencing it!
Oppression, societally and institutionally, has beaten us down so much that we are so “bad” and “wrong” and “ugly” by your standards that the sheer fact we want to take pride in the fact we are whatever we are [I say this in means to be like, no matter it’s Black history month, Gay Pride, Native American Heritage Month, etc] is in and of itself a revolutionary act.
These “months” and “parades” are not federally recognized or like “enforced” in any sense of the word. The ONLY recognized holiday that could conceivably be not white heterocis-centric is Martin Luther King Jr. Day and THAT IS ALL.
These months have very little power OVER YOU. It’s FOR US. Because we have a DIRE NEED to feel pride.
Resources and support groups for LGBTQ Muslims
- Queer Muslims - A space for queer Muslims to connect, express themselves and share resources. (A real treasure trove of articles, links and book reviews).
- ‘I am not Haraam’ project - a blog for LGBTQ Muslims to celebrate their identities and share their experiences.
Source: the website of the Safra project based in the UK. The full list (which also includes resources not solely targeted at Muslims can be found by clicking here.) However, below is a list of the resources specifically targeted to Muslims.
- Imaan - UK based
A social support group for Muslim lesbian, gays, bisexuals, transgender, those questioning their sexuality or gender identity and their friends and supporters.
- Safra Project- UK based
A Resource Project working on issues relating to lesbian, bisexual. trans, queer and questioning women who identify as Muslim religiously and/or culturally.
Listserve-dealing with issues concerning lesbian, bisexual and transgender women that identify as Muslim religiously or culturally.
- Safra Project Social Group- meets monthly in the UK, check website events notice for dates and venues.
- Salaam Canada
‘Salaam: Queer Muslim community’ is a Muslim Identified Organization dedicated to social justice, peace and human dignity through its work to bring all closer to a world that is free from injustice, including prejudice, discrimination, racism, misogyny, sexism and homophobia.
- The Inner Circle
The Inner Circle strives to reconcile sexuality and faith, and foster friendship through a positive peer group for gay, lesbian, transgendered and other sexually marginalized persons particularly of the Muslim community, as well as persons of other religions or cultures who experience similar or related challenges, and all those who support our aims.
They provide information through news/events, articles, discussions and life-orientation. They also have experts and qualified voluntary workers to deal with your queries and counseling, assisting individuals in reconciling their faith with their sexuality and dealing with other sexually related issues.http://www.theinnercircle.org.za/
An email discussion group for Muslims who identify as bisexual or who may be questioning their sexual orientation. Anything relevant to the bisexual Muslim community can be discussed on this forum. It is intended to be a safe space for Muslims who are bisexual and who want tomeet other Muslims who are also bisexual.
- Muslim Gay Men
MuslimGayMen is a group for Muslim gay men and their friends and allies.
- Partners of LGBT Muslims
To bring non-Muslim partners (who are in relationships with Muslims) together to discuss issues of common concern.
- TransMuslims (need Yahoo sign in)
An email discussion group for Muslims who identify as transgender, and for those that consider themselves gender variant. This includes anyone that identifies as an MTF (male to female) or an FTM (female to male). Issues of relevance to the Trans Muslim community are welcome on this list, including gender identity, issues of gender socialization in Islam, sex reassignment surgery, and Islam’s views towards transgendered people.
- Queer Jihad
A web site devoted to the needs of GLBT Muslims. Website:http://www.well.com/user/queerjhd/
- Queer Muslims
Resources for GLBT Muslims. Has information about Islam and Transsexuals.
This needs a LOT more notes. Signal boost this people. This is important.
Straight people apparently aren’t invited to the party.
Even Google fucking gets it.
No matter how much you try to justify it, the phrase “Die Cis Scum” only hurts your cause, and the people who support you.
Okay, I’m here to collect. Shut up, get on the damn bus, and let’s go.
Die Cis Scum is a legitimate expression of the anger of being oppressed. If it alienates you? If you need someone to hold your hand and give you cookies for doing what is right and fair? Then you aren’t needed; all you’re doing is masturbating yourself to the idea of being a good person. If you’re a Cis “ally” who won’t connect with anyone who says Die Cis Scum, if you refuse to take a position of understanding as to WHY someone would say that, if you refuse to believe that you are better off, that there are massive cultural forces at work, then you haven’t been lost as a supporter - you never were one.
And if you pull that shit to me I will smack you in the mouth because no, your feelings don’t matter and they will never be equal to the lives of Trans* individuals that have been and are continually being destroyed and ended by, yes, Cis Scum.
"There are people in the world who see that I am a person and feel that I must be stopped from being a person."
Buck Angel’s Public Cervix Announcement
[Image description: purple and black alternating diamond pattern in background. At the center is a pissed-off grey and white cat. Top text: “The ‘T’ in ‘LGBT’” Bottom text: “Isn’t for ‘Transparent’”]
also, LGBT is not inclusive of other gender and sexual identities — those who are Genderqueer, Pansexual, Asexual, and Polyamorous need lovin’, too.
let’s trade “LGBT” in for “Gender & Sexuality Minorities,” yes?
When I was a kid (again)
And watched X-men, I’d play pretend that I was in X-Men, and my ability was to change into a boy.
Of course, this transformation was only complete with an eyeliner mustache drawn in.
Oh and I made out with Wolverine.
Pretty sure Wolverine only makes out with boys with moustaches… He’s got kind of a fetish for ruggedness.