Why Guys Really Hate Being Called "Creepy"

kathleenthearsonist:

At the heart of the ‘anti-creep shaming campaign’ is a concerted effort to discourage women from relying on their instincts to protect themselves from harm. Laying aside its likely etymology, calling a dude an ‘asshole’ is a way of labeling him a jerk. Plenty of people can be jerks without being predatory. On the other hand, calling a dude ‘creepy’ labels him as a potential threat; a creep may not be imminently violent, but there’s almost always a sense that he shows consistent disregard for a woman’s physical or psychological space. This is why, as Wakeman wrote, ‘it’s a really freaking dangerous idea to twist a woman’s open, honest communication about her boundaries/expectations into ‘creep shaming’ that victimizes men.’

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apihtawikosisan:

hurray-caucasoids:

apihtawikosisan:

hurray-caucasoids:

If you consider racism to be more ‘important’ than the staggering rape statistics in America I will deem you a hopeless, worthless cause.

Because of course, race and sexual assault have nothing to do with one another.  They are hermetically sealed off from one another.

Okay you want to play this game I will bring up how in regards to interracial rape, black men overwhelmingly rape white women. Go ahead and try to explain away reality, you won’t be able to, but honestly I care about all women, who are 49% of the world population. Racism exists outside of America, and any race can hate another.

Go ahead and try to dismiss me or call me a silly white girl, hope you understand how little I care about being called racist, which is your only attack apparently.

“This game” I think pretty much sums up your inability to understand that race and gender intersect. 

Of course a “silly white girl” doesn’t care about being called racist.  Silly white girls do not actually experience systemic racism, and thus it is very easy to dismiss race and pretend that the experiences of white women are the experiences of all women.

It is clear you did not read the link I provided to you, which refers to the number of aboriginal women in Canada who have been raped and murdered because they are aboriginal.  That link also explains how systemic racism has made aboriginal women more vulnerable to such abuse, particularly via endemic, systemic racism within law enforcement agencies who disproportionately focus on white victims while deliberately not investigating the murders and disappearances of native victims.

In fact, this issue is so outrageous that they’ve actually had to launch an inquiry into how badly the police botched investigations related to the mostly native victims.  What is even more sickening is that the inquiry itself has been marred by racism, refusing to give full hearing to officers who worked on these cases who testified to the way in which investigators refused to do their jobs because the women who were missing were nativeThe sexism involved in these issues is very much informed by race.

You may be unaware of these things, and thus making a statement that “violence against women is more important than race” makes sense to you.  But it makes little sense to those of us who experience sexual violence BECAUSE OF OUR RACE.

Nor does your approach in any way show an awareness of how white feminism  ignores the racist impact of colonialism on gender roles in native societies.  You might want to learn more.

Do not pretend to ‘care about all women’ while dismissing how race very much has something to do with the kind of sexualised violence we face as women who are not white.

And yes, I will call you a racist and a white supremacist, as your blog so clearly marks you to be.  Whether you ‘care’ about this or not makes no difference.

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"A woman’s worst nightmare? That’s pretty easy. Novelist Margaret Atwood writes that when she asked a male friend why men feel threatened by women, he answered, “They are afraid women will laugh at them.” When she asked a group of women why they feel threatened by men, they said, “We’re afraid of being killed.”"

http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/articles/nightmare.html (via alullaby)

This reminds me of a discussion we had in school, and one girl was talking about living in fear of her safety because she is a girl, and this guy chimed in and was all “It’s hard for guys too! I’m so awkward around girls! It’s embarrassing!” Yeah, not the same thing, exactly?

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This reminds me of an article about online (heterosexual) dating that I read a while ago. It listed men’s and women’s worst fears about meeting someone from online. The highest ranked fear that men had was that their date would be fat, whereas the highest ranked fear that women had was that their date would turn out to be violent and kill them. 

I think that says a lot. 

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Always reblog. Also, this is the dynamic between most privileged and oppressed groups. I don’t feel like most people understand that.

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mypatronusisyou:

theokatzman:


Fresh off of his Grammy performances and the backlash from music fans and celebrities alike, singer Chris Brown is being accused of making light of his 2009 assault conviction.
According to a report from Us Weekly, the singer –who pleaded guilty to felony assault of his then-girlfriend Rihanna  in 2009 – has reportedly been using the pick-up line,  “I promise I won’t beat you.”
A woman tells the magazine that Brown approached her on Feb. 10 at the Lasio Professional Hair Care suite at the Grammy gift lounge to ask for her number.
“Can I get your number? I promise I won’t beat you,” the woman said he told her.
“He and his friends laughed, then one yelled, ‘That’s his new line!’” she said. “I wanted to throw up.”
Following the Grammys Sunday, Brown’s two performances and one win have received significant criticism on social networks.
Country singer Miranda Lambert wrote on her Twitter page, “He beat on a girl … Not cool that we act like that didn’t happen. He needs to listen to Gunpowder and lead and be put back in his place. Not at the Grammys.”
“Gunpowder and Lead” is one of Lambert’s songs that deals with domestic violence.
Other celebs including Jack Osbourne, “Modern Family” star Eric Stonestreet and Michelle Branch similarly expressed frustration for Brown’s appearance.
According to Us magazine, Rihanna and Chris Brown have been spending time together over the past year and may even be recording a single together.

is this really happening are you fucking kidding me chris brown

omg I read about this in the paper today 
if he ever said that to me I’d be like “lol but I can’t promise I won’t beat you fuckface”

mypatronusisyou:

theokatzman:

Fresh off of his Grammy performances and the backlash from music fans and celebrities alike, singer Chris Brown is being accused of making light of his 2009 assault conviction.

According to a report from Us Weekly, the singer –who pleaded guilty to felony assault of his then-girlfriend Rihanna  in 2009 – has reportedly been using the pick-up line,  “I promise I won’t beat you.”

A woman tells the magazine that Brown approached her on Feb. 10 at the Lasio Professional Hair Care suite at the Grammy gift lounge to ask for her number.

“Can I get your number? I promise I won’t beat you,” the woman said he told her.

“He and his friends laughed, then one yelled, ‘That’s his new line!’” she said. “I wanted to throw up.”

Following the Grammys Sunday, Brown’s two performances and one win have received significant criticism on social networks.

Country singer Miranda Lambert wrote on her Twitter page, “He beat on a girl … Not cool that we act like that didn’t happen. He needs to listen to Gunpowder and lead and be put back in his place. Not at the Grammys.”

“Gunpowder and Lead” is one of Lambert’s songs that deals with domestic violence.

Other celebs including Jack Osbourne, “Modern Family” star Eric Stonestreet and Michelle Branch similarly expressed frustration for Brown’s appearance.

According to Us magazine, Rihanna and Chris Brown have been spending time together over the past year and may even be recording a single together.

is this really happening are you fucking kidding me chris brown

omg I read about this in the paper today 

if he ever said that to me I’d be like “lol but I can’t promise I won’t beat you fuckface”

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